So, I’m a little late to the Resolution Revamp party due to my completely retarded computer savvy. (And before you cringe at that statement, I mean to use the word “retarded” in its actual meaning, not as a derogatory slur.) I, as many of you out there, have a very uncomfortable relationship with New Year Resolutions. So, in an effort to be respectful of that relationship, I am choosing to not make a list of resolutions this year. Instead, I am going to periodically choose some way of bettering my Self and/or my life, and document it for posterity. My hope is that in doing so, I will A.) be able to reflect on how my choices and actions form my daily experience, and B.) offer up some inspiration on how you might find a little more growth, joy, ease in your life, as well.
Today’s ‘resolution’ centers on framing. No, I don’t mean creating a pleasing surround for a portrait or painting. What I refer to here is the way in which I choose to view a given experience or situation. I believe that the best way to actualize resolutions, or goals, is to address them in very specific ways. Instead of making the vague statement that I will begin to re-frame my perspectives of all my experiences, I am choosing to change the way I frame one particular experience in my life right now – my school experience.
Some of you may know that I am currently enrolled in an esthetics training program at the local community college. The experience, thus far, has been disappointing for me. Not wanting to come back to the same disappointment following winter break, I made the decision to try to re-frame the way I view this experience. As I began to explore what might be the root of the problem causing the unpleasant symptoms of disappointment, defeatism and foul attitude, I realized that the school program is not the problem at all. The real issue in play here is my reaction to my unmet expectations of what I believed this experience would/should be. My reaction is something over which I have control. And there’s the A-HA!
Rather than gripe about what the program isn’t giving me, I’m trying to focus on how I can get as much from it as possible while also contributing to the collaborative experience in the best way I can. So far it seems to be working. My school experience is still not ideal, but it’s a million times more enjoyable than it was before the winter break. I am learning more and smiling more and sharing more. And that, to me, is what resolutions are all about: making life a little more enjoyable.
Have any of you had any similar experiences with changing your framing of a given experience or situation? Please share if you do. I’d love to hear about it.